The Tradition of NOT Seeing the Bride Before the Ceremony | Wedding History

How did we come to the modern-day and now challenged tradition of the bride and groom not seeing each other until the ceremony on the wedding day? Better understanding the tradition might help you in the wedding planning process.


This practice emerges from pre-18th century time, when it was common place for pre-arranged marriages. It was deemed "unlucky" for a bride and groom to see one another. This was an attempt to keep the groom from backing out of the wedding upon seeing his unidentified bride to be prior to the ceremony.


Many modern couples opt to have a first look rather than wait to see eachtoehr down the aisle. Understanding the history behind the tradition of not seeing one another before the wedding ceremony has helped couples make the choice to have a first look.


La Valencia Wedding
Danielle Harris Photography

Wedding Planning Tips: Aren't sure if a first look is for you? Read more about what a First Look is and why we recommend them, here.


Interested in more wedding history? Click here for the history of why the wedding ring is worn on the right hand


California Destination Wedding Planner: Bridget Davis Events

Sources: Southern Living, 16 Common Wedding Traditions

Destination Wedding Photo: Danielle Harris Photography

Venue: La Valencia Hotel

Floral: Little Fleur Co

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